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Why I Work with Neurodivergent Children: A Personal Journey
When I speak with parents of neurodivergent kids, I often hear the same underlying concern: “Am I doing enough? Is something wrong with my child?”
I understand that worry. Our society is built around a narrow idea of how children “should” behave, learn, and communicate. Anything outside the box is often seen as a problem to fix. But what if it isn’t? What if these differences are actually capacities waiting to be explored?
My Approach with Children
I work with children, diagnosed and undiagnosed, who often don’t fit the mold. Some are non-verbal, sensitive to light or sound, very high energy or simply uninterested in playing or learning in conventional ways. Instead of trying to change them, I meet them where they are.
My approach combines:
Calm, peaceful presence so children feel safe and seen.
Nervous system regulation to create more ease for both child and parent.
Inquiry-based learning, play, and expressive arts to invite curiosity.
Nature and movement as doorways into self-expression.
I also draw on the tools of Pragmatic Psychology (inspired by psychiatrist Susanna Mittermeier and child specialist Anne Maxwell) and a gentle technique called Access Bars®, which helps quiet the mind and relax the body. With children who are sensitive to touch, this can even be done without direct contact.
Why This Matters to Me
This isn’t just professional, it’s personal. I am neurodivergent myself, though never officially diagnosed, I clearly resonate with ADHD and light autism. For years, I thought my “weird” way of perceiving and communicating was wrong. Now I recognize it as a gift that allows me to connect with children in ways words often can’t.
On top of that, my younger brother was on the spectrum, though not formally diagnosed. From the time he was a baby, I was the only one in my family who could “speak his language” and ease his meltdowns. I became his advocate, helping teachers see him not as a problem but as a contributor. Today, he is a thriving engineer with multiple degrees and a fulfilling life. Supporting him shaped the patience and presence I bring to every child I work with.
What I See in Children
When I work with kids, I don’t focus on what’s missing, I look for what’s present and possible. A child who doesn’t speak may still communicate clearly through energy, gesture, and presence. A child labeled “behind” may actually perceive the world in ways most adults can’t begin to imagine.
The so-called “difficult” behaviors often melt away when a child is met without judgment. And in their place, something else emerges: creativity, connection, and joy.
An Invitation
If you’re a parent, caregiver, or educator of a sensitive or neurodivergent child, I invite you to take a breath. Let go of the judgments, of yourself and of them. Ask instead: What else is possible here that I haven’t even imagined before?
You may be surprised at how clearly a child shows you what they need, if you’re present enough to receive it.
Start acknowledging what you perceive and know as a parent. Because, even if nobody else gets it, you know.
✨ For more stories and tools, you can explore some of my blog posts:
Allowance, not Judgment: Meeting Neurodivergent Kids with Presence
Being a child in today’s world is already tough, with so many expectations, judgments, and structures designed to make them “fit.” For neurodivergent children, it can feel even tougher. They are often exquisitely aware of the energetic judgments placed upon them. What they need most isn’t more correction, it’s space to breathe.
So what else is possible here? How can we create more space for them to be?
The Broken Glass
The other day, I began working with a new client, a bright 6-year-old boy. We were playing a throwing game when a glass jar accidentally broke.
I didn’t react with frustration or scolding. Instead, I said calmly:
“Oops, let’s make sure our feet are safe. Here are shoes for you.”
As I knelt down to clean the glass, he hovered close, watching intently. Then, in a soft and almost defeated voice, like he was bracing himself for me to lash out, the way some adults or teachers might, he asked:
“Are you done with me?”
My heart cracked open. And inside, I wondered: What is he really asking?” And I realized, my firmness with him “Stand on this side of the door please” and my focused action of cleaning the glass might have landed as separation, as this was our first 1:1 day together..
I simply said:
“Oh darling, no. I’m just cleaning this up so we don’t get hurt. Afterward, we’ll keep playing. And next time, let’s look around together first to notice any fragile objects before we play this game again.”
I could see the shift in his body: shoulders dropping, breath easing. He lit up with relief.
The Forest Walk
Later that day, when we went into the forest together, something else happened. He quietly wet his pants. I noticed, but instead of pointing it out or making it a problem, I stayed present.
Inside, I asked myself: What might really be going on here? What else is possible?
A few minutes later, he looked at me with quiet self-awareness and said:
“I’m going to change into shorts when we get home. I got wet crossing the river.”
I met his eyes gently and replied, “I can see that.” Nothing more needed to be said.
When we got home, he changed his clothes right away. No resistance, no shame. Just flow.
Later, reflecting on the moment, I realized I could weave in subtle body awareness games and spacious check-ins during our time together. These gentle practices might help him notice his body’s signals without pressure, while also giving me more insight into how to support him.
The Photo Album
That afternoon, he also showed me a special photo album filled with baby pictures and family adventures. He told me about the memories he remembered and the ones he’d heard from his family. The love and care of his parents, siblings, and neighbors was so apparent.
And yet, I also know he has been in environments that were not an immediate extension of this attitude. In those spaces, he might have been judged, not because those people were mean, but because the environments lacked the resources and perspectives that would allow adults to be present with him.
Even though he is growing up in a family that honors him, not everyone in society meets him with the same allowance or curiosity. (What would it take to create a world that does?)
In that moment, I was reminded why I do this work. My joy and purpose is to show kids and parents that the level of caring, honoring, and celebration of these gifted children exists, and can be expanded.
Here is my unusual point of view: These children are not broken. They are the leaders of the planet. They are here to create a world beyond old structures. And there are those of us who are here to have their backs and create together.
What Allowance Really Means
Allowance doesn’t mean letting children do whatever they want. It means:
If a behavior risks safety, I am clear and firm, but not shaming.
If a behavior could harm themselves or others, I am equally clear, but never at the expense of the child.
For everything else, I drop expectations, stay present, and stay in question.
Allowance means not making a child or yourself wrong. And looking for possibilities that create greater for all.
A Parent’s Words
That evening, I sent his mom a voice message describing our day. This was her response:
“Oh Nihan, your messages brought me to tears. Truly. I’m still crying. Your level of attunement and non-judgmental care for our boy is so moving and healing. Your level of detail describing your day together helped me feel like I was spending the day with you both. Thank you. 🙏🏼 No problem about the broken glass, it sounds like it provided an opportunity for deeper connection and trust building. Lovely how you made space for his response and met him with love/curiosity. I’m very grateful that you two are spending more time together.”
The Tools That Support Me
And I’ll be honest, it may not always be the easiest thing in the world. What allows me to show up in this way, again and again, are the tools I use myself. One of the most powerful is Access Bars®.
I receive regular Bars sessions, and they give me space to breathe. The sticky thoughts, judgments, and energetic “noise” melt away. When I’m not making myself wrong or trying to prove something, everything gets easier. Access Bars opens that space for me, so I can be that space for the children and families I work with. It also allows me to know what kind of environment I require to have this level of presence and ask for it.
What Is Access Bars®?
Access Bars® is a gentle, hands-on technique that allows the brain and the body to release stored tension and let go of the “mental clutter” that keeps us stuck.
For kids, Bars can feel like a reset button, helping them find more calm, ease, and relaxation in their bodies. For parents and educators, it can be a simple yet powerful way to dissolve stress and return to presence.
I not only offer private sessions for both adults and children, but I also teach parents and kids how to use Access Bars themselves. Families often find it creates a new level of connection and ease at home.
Want to Explore More?
If you’d like to dive deeper into the approaches that have shaped my work with children, here are three books and bodies of work that have been life-changing for me:
Would You Teach a Fish to Climb a Tree? by Anne Maxwell
A beautiful resource for understanding and honoring neurodiverse children, and seeing their brilliance rather than seeing them as “problems.”The Gift of Allowance by Gary Douglas
A guide to allowance, not about permissiveness, but about meeting others without judgment, force, or resistance.Pragmatic Psychology by Susanna Mittermaier
An empowering body of work that invites us to go beyond labels and conclusions, and instead use curiosity, questions, and presence to create change.
These teachings have deeply informed how I meet children: not as problems to fix, but as possibilities to nurture.
For Parents & Educators
I offer 1:1 sessions and consultations for parents, educators, and caregivers who would like support in creating more ease with their children, whether at home, in the classroom, or in everyday life. Together, we can explore practical tools that reduce stress, build connection, and honor the brilliance of every child.
If you’d like to know more, you can contact me here.
Communicating Beyond Words: What Non-Verbal Kids Teach Us
Many parents of non-verbal kids worry. I understand the struggle. Our modern society is geared toward a certain way of being and interacting in the world. The world is so loud and dictating sometimes, it sees difference as a shortcoming.
But what if it weren’t?
My Gift with Non-Verbal Communication
As a neurodivergent person, I have always had “weird” gifts and capacities, ones I thought were wrong for most of my life because they didn’t fit the norm. One of those gifts is my ability to communicate without words.
I perceive the language of trees, oceans, animals, babies. I sense people’s thoughts, even when they don’t match the words coming out of their mouths. I can “talk to” everything and know things instantaneously.
In a world where loudness dictates, these capacities were seen as abnormal. But over the years I realized the underlying language of all things is energy. And energy is my first language, just as it is for many autistic (and non-autistic) children.
This is why I feel so natural with babies, animals, and non-verbal kids. With them, I am not at a loss. What it takes is presence, curiosity, and a willingness to receive, with a dash of creativity.
Stories from My Work with Children
When I first started offering expressive arts workshops for children and families, I noticed something beautiful: non-verbal children were drawn to my classes. Parents were often apologetic about bringing them. Yet, to me, their children communicated clearly, sometimes even more clearly than adults.
One three-year-old, who became a 1:1 client, stands out. His parents worried he was “behind”, he didn’t use words, had regular meltdowns, and was sensitive to sound, light, and environment. His mother, with so much love, asked: “Is something wrong with my child?”
What I discovered was something entirely different.
He could perceive the physical world with uncanny accuracy, almost like a physicist predicting the movement of objects before they fell.
He deeply understood language, when my words matched my energy.
After one month of play sessions, he began speaking in simple sentences, bringing his mother to tears of joy.
I also taught his parents a simple but powerful tool: giving him a mental or visual “download” of what his day would look like.* This eased his meltdowns dramatically. And when we introduced a peer into his play, he quickly grew curious, then joyful, then bonded, discovering the beauty of shared play and language, verbal or not.
A Different Possibility for Parents and Educators
Each child is unique. What may appear as a developmental problem may, in truth, be an undiscovered capacity. It is not about blaming parents or teachers—it is about asking new questions.
So I invite you:
Let go of doubt, guilt, and judgment.
Ask: What else is possible here?
Be present, calm, and curious.
When received with wonder, these children come alive. “Unmanageable” behaviors, often coping mechanisms of gifted children feeling misunderstood, begin to soften.
True patience is not forcing a child into a box. True patience is peaceful presence that doesn’t make wrong. From that place, you may discover gifts you could have never imagined.
✨ If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear what you notice when you try being present in this way with the children in your life.
*For more information about this tool, check out the book “Would You Teach a Fish To Climb A Tree” by Anne Maxwell.
The Light-Hearted Approach to Stress Relief
What if stress relief and mental health didn’t have to be heavy subjects? What if we could invite more lightness?
By more lightness, I mean creating spaces where people can finally exhale, where the tension in their shoulders softens, and they don’t have to carry everything alone.
Because here’s the truth: chronic stress rewires us.
Our bodies stay in fight-or-flight.
Every deadline feels like life or death.
Every tantrum (ours or someone else’s) feels like the end of the world.
We lose touch with our gifts, our creativity, and even our sense of self.
Instead of showing up as who we truly are, we start running on pressure, resentment, guilt, and survival. And in that state, it’s almost impossible to create the life, the work, and the relationships we came here to create.
My approach is simple. Let’s use what you already have:
Your body. Let’s include it, through breath, movement, and relaxation.
Your awareness. You already know things. Let’s trust that knowing.
Your joy. You have things that light you up. Let’s make space for them.
When you relax and release, you come back together. Your mind quiets down. You start to sense what’s actually required. You become naturally faster, clearer, more efficient, without the mental drama or the clenched jaw.
And yes, let’s add humour and lightness. That’s something I’ve learned from my years working with early childhood. Children remind us that true resilience lives in wonder, not in holding on tightly or becoming rigid, but in flexibility, curiosity, and play. Like a tree: strong, rooted, yet moving with the wind.
That’s what the light-hearted approach is all about. Practical tools, simple practices, and a space where your body, your mind, and your joy are included. A way to return to yourself. Calm, connected, and able to create what matters most.
September Special & Upcoming Offerings
This month, I’m opening space for private sessions at a special rate:
Coaching
Access Bars®
Access Energetic Facelift®
I’m also booking workshops and speaking engagements for fall and winter.
Write to me, if you’d like details on upcoming trainings or to explore how we might work together.
How Access Facelift Gave Me Back My Own Eyes
Have you ever looked in the mirror and seen yourself through somebody else’s eyes? Someone who has judgment? This piece is about setting free from that.
When I first heard about Access Energetic Facelift®, my response was simple: “I don’t need a facelift.”
I wasn’t interested in fighting age or erasing lines. So when a practitioner offered me a taster, I almost said no. But there was something light and exciting in the energy, and so I said yes and my whole world changed.
As soon as the practitioner put her hands on my face, my body began to exhale in a way I hadn’t realized I was holding back. Tension I thought was permanent began to soften. Old “chronic” injuries I’d carried for years started to shift. I left lighter, not just in my face, but in my whole body and being.
At that time in my life, I was still carrying the invisible weight of an old relationship. I had left, but the judgments stayed. Every time I looked in the mirror, I saw myself through his eyes: harsh, critical, unkind. I didn’t know how to change that. It was like a prison.
Facelift gave me back my own eyes.
It softened the gaze I turned on myself.
It brought back my glow.
The more sessions I received, the more that glow stayed.
From Hiding to Being Seen
There was another piece I didn’t expect. Before Access Facelift, I was in hiding mode. If you looked for photos of me online, you wouldn’t find much. I carried shame and judgment for taking space for myself to heal. I thought I needed to have everything figured out and become “perfect” before I could engage with society again.
Access Facelift began to unravel that.
As my body relaxed, so did the walls I had built around being seen. I started showing my face in the world again. Little by little, I came out of hiding.
Facelift has helped me start meeting myself without judgment.
It helped me start showing up as more of me. The journey still unfolds.
What Is Access Energetic Facelift®?
It isn’t surgery, injections, or skincare.
Access Energetic Facelift® is a gentle, hands-on energetic process that invites your body to release judgments, stress, and aging. Practitioners use light touch on the chest, neck, and face to activate the body’s natural ability to renew.
The result? Your face softens. Your body relaxes. Your whole presence glows.
The True Gift
Yes, Access Energetic Facelift® can reverse the signs of aging. It makes you look more youthful, radiant, and alive. But what I discovered is that this isn’t only about what happens on the surface.
The lines, the dullness, the heaviness, so often they come from the judgments we’ve layered onto ourselves. When those judgments begin to release, your whole face and body soften. You don’t just look younger — you feel lighter, freer, more present.
Facelift isn’t about perfection. It’s about kindness.
It isn’t about erasing. It’s about revealing.
It’s about remembering the glow that was always yours and finally letting it shine through.
When you look in the mirror, whose eyes are you seeing yourself through?
What would it be like to see yourself through your own eyes, without judgment, with kindness, with glow?
If your body is whispering yes… I’d love to invite you to experience Access Energetic Facelift® for yourself.
You can join me for a session, or, if you feel called, step into my upcoming class and learn to gift this to others too.
Your glow is waiting.
Your kindness is waiting.
And perhaps, your own eyes are waiting to meet you again.
When Everything Looks Perfect, But Isn’t
A personal story of unraveling, remembering, and returning to what’s true
Ten years ago, my life looked perfect on paper.
A successful career.
A good-looking marriage.
A beachside apartment in one of the most livable cities on Earth.
I had done everything I was told would bring happiness, checked every box.
And yet, I was quietly unraveling.
Anxiety. Burnout. A deep, persistent ache that whispered: This isn’t it.
I searched relentlessly. Therapy. Meditation. Spiritual teachings.
While these offered temporary refuge, nothing created the kind of lasting shift my being was hungry for.
Until one day, I stumbled across a YouTube video introducing the tools of Access Consciousness.
There was no dogma. Just simple, potent questions and energetic tools that, when I started using them, actually worked.
And everything began to change.
I found the clarity and courage to end a relationship that was dimming my light.
I began making choices that were true for me, not just what looked good from the outside.
It wasn't about perfection, which has always been a pitfall for me. It was about being present and choosing.
When I received my first Access Bars® session, it felt like being in the forest:
Spacious. Quiet. Alive.
Something in me exhaled for the first time in years.
I went on to learn Access Bars and began trading sessions regularly.
Within two months, the PTSD symptoms I had lived with for years began to dissolve.
I experienced joy I hadn’t known was possible.
My nervous system softened.
My world expanded.
People around me noticed.
“You’re different,” they’d say. “What are you doing?”
Now, I’m a certified Access Bars® and Access Energetic Facelift® Facilitator, sharing these tools with people who sense that something more is possible, and are ready to choose it.
I don’t offer healing.
I offer space.
I don’t fix people.
I invite them to remember what they’ve always known.
If you're here, reading this, there’s likely something in your world asking for a shift.
A softness.
A different rhythm.
A return to what’s true for you.
Is now the time?
If this story stirred something in you…
If you’ve been craving change—but haven’t found a tool that truly shifts things…
You’re warmly invited to a free Zoom class:
Tools That Change Everything
A live intro to the verbal and energetic tools that helped me unravel years of stress, judgment, and emotional noise, and return to space, choice, and aliveness.
We’ll explore the verbal tools of Access Consciousness, how to use them in your daily life, and what becomes possible when you stop trying to fix yourself, and start choosing what works for you.
Find out more about this Zoom class here.
August 12, 10:00 am PDT.
(Recording available if you can’t make it live)
Your life doesn’t have to stay stuck.
You’re allowed to have more ease.
And it might be closer than you think.
With presence and possibility,
Nihan Sevinç
Being Is the New Spotlight
A dance floor analogy
Being isn’t the loudest thing in the room,
but it’s the one that moves everything.
And just like on the dance floor, life responds to it.
Being doesn’t announce itself.
It arrives, and everything shifts.
There’s a moment,
on the dance floor or in life,
when you let go of the mind.
You drop the stories
and the pretence,
when you stop trying to hide,
and you stop trying to be seen,
and just let yourself be moved
by something deeper.
You don’t perform presence.
You become it.
Not to impress.
Not to gather eyes.
But because it is what flows.
And in that moment,
when you stop editing, stop controlling,
you become a rhythm others can feel, too.
You’re not projecting.
You’re not choreographing.
You are moving as the moment,
And somehow, the floor begins to shift around you.
People take notice
not because you were reaching for them,
but because you are home in yourself.
That’s magic!
And that’s what they, too, have been seeking.
Meanwhile, someone nearby might be
trying to hold the spotlight.
Trying to appear radiant.
Trying to dance in a way that gets applause.
But the dance doesn’t lie.
And neither does life.
You can tell when someone’s in their head.
You can tell when it’s pretend, not pulse.
Being isn’t something you perform.
It’s something you allow.
And when someone who’s trying encounters someone who’s being,
it can stir things up.
They might compliment you,
but something doesn’t quite land.
The words may sound warm,
but the energy behind them isn’t.
It’s not true celebration.
It’s not “I see you.”
It’s more like,
“I want what you have, but I can’t admit it.”
A praise with a pinch of competition.
A smile that scans for comparison.
A nod that is slightly off.
So what do you do then?
You don’t make them wrong.
You don’t let it stick.
You don’t dim your radiance
to make someone else comfortable with their lack.
Because when you’re being,
you know the difference
between acknowledgment
and judgment.
And when you don’t shrink in defence,
or fight in reaction,
you invite everyone to a different possibility.
Life is a dance floor.
Every room you walk into.
Every conversation.
Every creative moment.
Some are trying to remember the steps.
Others are busy performing for the crowd.
But some, just a few,
are letting the music move them
in real time.
And those who witness them?
They’re moved.
Awakened.
They remember.
You don’t have to seek the spotlight.
When your movement is natural, the light finds you.
The world is tired of performance.
It’s hungry for presence.
So, keep dancing.
Just keep dancing.
— Nihan Sevinc
An Open Letter to Canadians
To those who care and all who walk these lands
I first visited Vancouver when I was nineteen.
I came as an uninvited guest.
The land welcomed me.
The ancestors, too.
The trees. The eagles. The moss. The ocean’s breath.
Even the raccoons peeking through the salmonberry thickets
it was like the whole land whispered, you’re safe here.
I had come from Turkey
a land of ancient beauty and intensity,
but also of deep compression.
Crowded cities.
Millennia of trauma, woven into every brick and bone.
I didn’t know how much I had been bracing
until I arrived here
and my body… exhaled.
Something was different.
The space.
The stillness.
The wildness.
The kindness, not the performative politeness, but something quieter.
And my body began to come back to life.
It was the peace of nature
And it was the teachings I began to encounter through Indigenous voices.
Ways of relating to the land that weren’t about domination,
but about communion.
Ways of listening my great-grandmothers had only given me glimpses of as a little kid.
These teachings, these lands, healed something in me.
They became an antidote to the oppression etched into my skin.
The internalized silencing.
The inherited fear.
The fracture I’d carried between myself and the world.
Here, in the presence of wild forests and ancient knowing,
I found space to become whole again.
Long story short: I came back.
I returned to do my MA in political science.
I’ve lived here for 15 years now.
I became a citizen.
I realized things weren’t perfect.
But I knew I could be a contribution.
Coming from a country with unstable politics,
where human rights were fragile,
where being a woman meant contorting yourself just to stay safe
Canada, with all its complexity, still held a very real possibility for healing.
Yes, its atrocities toward Indigenous peoples run deep.
But something else was also present:
Space.
Wilderness.
Land-based wisdom that hadn’t been fully silenced.
A chance to remember a different way of being.
Lately, though... I’ve watched something shift.
People growing bitter.
Clinging to righteousness.
Afraid to let go of their positions.
Starting to fear each other.
This letter is not a judgment
It’s a gentle invitation.
A remembering.
Start by acknowledging the beauty around you.
Not to make it precious
but to let it breathe.
Let nature be your teacher, your friend, your mirror.
Let the fir trees regulate your breath.
Let the hummingbirds reawaken your joy.
Let the mycelium remind you: we are all connected.
The salmon, the cedar, the morning fog
they carry wisdom.
They remember.
Stop fighting shadows.
Who or what are you really fighting?
The belonging you long for won’t come from trying to be a “better Canadian.”
It comes from remembering: you belong with the Earth.
You are already on sacred ground.
The land, the trees, the creatures—they are waiting for you to wake up.
If all you focus on is how “f*cked” Canada is,
you’re feeding the problem.
Be aware.
Notice the propaganda trying to make you forget your power.
Stop buying the story that you’re helpless.
Instead:
Go outside.
Feel the wind.
Notice the generosity of the land.
Let yourself be changed.
If you’re a white settler:
Connect with your roots.
Your songs, your food, your rituals.
Without that, you carry an anxiety that burdens the rest of us.
We see it.
We feel it.
But we also know:
You do have something to offer.
When you drop the performance and let yourself be real
you become powerful.
If you’re an immigrant:
You stand at a threshold.
You get to choose what you carry forward.
You don’t have to recreate the systems you fled.
To First Nations and Indigenous Peoples:
Thank you.
Thank you for your wisdom, your resilience, your presence.
We are here now.
How can we contribute?
To all of us:
Anger, shame, and separation won’t build the future we want.
But generosity, creativity, and connection will.
The solutions we seek
will not come from the fight.
They will come from the land.
From the stillness.
From the creatures.
From our kindness.
From our imagination.
It begins here:
With calming your nervous system.
With syncing your rhythm to that of the forest, the rain, the rivers.
Let nature co-regulate with you.
You’re not too big.
You’re not too small.
You are.
Be curious.
Let go of the doom narrative.
If we choose differently now—we will thrive.
Notice what the land offers you.
The berries.
The silence.
The rain.
The stubborn dandelions.
Let it in.
Use your rights as citizens
but don’t expect politicians to fix it all.
Their interests lie elsewhere.
Change begins in us.
In small, daily choices.
Reach out from generosity, not strategy.
Connect from curiosity, not ideology.
Ask yourself:
What kind of world would I like to live in?
Because,
it’s not too late.
It’s not impossible.
If we start choosing something different… now.
With a sense of possibility,
and deep gratitude for the land that holds us all,
Nihan Sevinc is a Turkish-Canadian writer, facilitator, and creative coach based on the west coast. She helps people come home to their bodies, creativity, and their unique connection with the Earth. She is grateful to live and create on the unceded traditional territories of the Musqueam, Squamish, and Tsleil-Waututh Nations.
For the Woman Who No Longer Chases
There comes a moment when you realize:
you don’t have to chase.
You don’t have to prove.
You don’t have to deserve.
You don’t have to wait to be chosen.
You don’t have to overgive to be worthy.
You get to be you.
Fully. Clearly. Softly.
And the ones who are meant to meet you there… will.
This is for the woman who’s remembering…
A Poem for the Woman Who No Longer Chases
You choose for you,
not for someone else.
Not with noise,
but with presence.
Not with effort,
but with knowing.
You no longer twist your shape
to fit inside someone’s maybe.
You don’t chase.
You don’t plead.
You don’t perform.
You stand.
Soft. Clear.
Wildly magnetic.
You are the space where beauty finds its way.
Where possibilities gather, curious and reverent.
Where life itself rearranges
to meet the one
who stopped running
and started receiving.
Listen…
You don’t have to fetch the magic.
You are it
the kind that whispers,
invites…
summons
those who are willing
to receive.
— Nihan
P.S. Are you still chasing or are you ready to let life meet you?
If you’re ready to return to your center, explore my private sessions.
Preventing Burnout in Caregivers and Educators
Because we can’t co-regulate if we’re running on empty
There’s something I wish every adult caring for children knew:
Children don’t just listen to our words.
They sync with our nervous system.
They feel when we’re overwhelmed.
They notice when we’re holding it all together with invisible thread.
Even if we smile. Even if we say, “I’m fine.”
They are always perceiving.
Always tuning in.
Not to what we say, but to who we are in that moment.
And so much of what we call “difficult behavior”
is often just a child reacting to the tension they feel, but don’t know how to name.
If we want peaceful classrooms, calm homes, and regulated kids;
we have to begin with us.
But what happens when we’re exhausted, too?
The truth is, many of us are caregiving through depletion.
Teaching while overwhelmed.
Parenting while dissociated.
Trying to stay regulated when we haven’t had a full breath in weeks.
It’s not because we don’t care.
It’s because we care so much
and the structure rarely cares for us.
You can’t co-regulate if your own system is in survival.
You can’t listen deeply when your body is screaming for rest.
And you can’t model calm when you’re constantly adapting to havoc and mayhem.
So many caregivers, parents, and teachers are running on fumes,
pouring from an empty cup.
And still expected to carry everyone else.
This post is NOT here to shame that.
It’s here to soften it.
To offer another way.
Enter: Access Bars®: a tool for nervous system repair
One of the simplest, most profound tools I’ve found (and now offer) for restoring nervous system balance is a gentle hands-on process called Access Bars®.
It’s a light touch technique on the head that clears stuck energy, racing thoughts, emotional buildup, and stored stress from the brain and body.
It doesn’t just “relax you”, it creates space.
Space to think clearly.
Space to breathe.
Space for connection to happen, without all the static.
For caregivers and educators, I’ve seen this tool do what no wellness program or app could do:
✨ Reduce emotional reactivity
✨ Improve communication with children
✨ Restore inner quiet and presence
✨ Make space for new choices, instead of repeating old patterns
Access Bars in families & classrooms
What happens when the adults are regulated?
The whole environment changes.
Children begin to feel safer.
Communication becomes softer.
Conflict decreases.
Creative flow returns.
And what once felt like daily meltdowns or shutdowns become moments for real connection and co-regulation.
In many parts of the world, Access Bars is already being offered in schools and family systems, because when everyone receives support, we stop passing stress around like a hot potato. We start breathing together again.
This is what I offer
In our sessions with parents, caregivers, educators, and children,
we don’t just talk about behavior.
We go deeper.
We work with the nervous system.
We create space for the whole being, yours and theirs.
✨ I offer Access Bars® sessions and classes for individuals and families.*
✨ I work with schools, educators, and teams who want to bring peace back into the classroom.
✨ I support parents who are burnt out but still want to parent with presence.
Because your regulation matters.
Your rest matters.
And your body, too, deserves to feel safe.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
But when you’re nourished,
you don’t just cope.
You create.
With care for your body, your breath,
and the brilliant kids syncing to your frequency,
Nihan
Facilitator of regulation, peace, and new possibilities for families & classrooms
nihansevinc.com
*You can find Access Bars facilitators and practitioners anywhere around the world.
Supporting Sensitive & Neurodivergent Kids Without Making Them a Problem
What if their difference is actually their brilliance?
There’s a quote that’s become a gentle anthem for those who don't fit the norm:
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree,
it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
— Often attributed to Einstein
And yet, this is exactly what many of our structures are still doing.
We measure children by narrow standards.
We praise what fits.
We pathologize what doesn’t.
And in doing so, we often miss the brilliance that doesn’t show up in traditional form.
The child who needs movement to focus.
The one who sees colors when they hear music.
The one who speaks few words but perceives volumes of energy in a room.
These children are often labeled sensitive, distracted, resistant, oppositional…
or simply too much.
But what if they’re not too much?
What if they’re just not designed to climb trees, because they were meant to swim in an entirely different element?
“Would You Teach a Fish to Climb a Tree?”
(A powerful question from the book by Anne Maxwell, Gary M. Douglas, and Dr. Dain Heer)
This book changed something in me.
It didn’t try to fix children.
It invited a completely different question:
What if neurodivergence isn’t something to solve… but something to receive?
The authors speak to the subtle, profound awareness many children have—awareness that goes unacknowledged in environments that only value linear thinking, fast answers, or compliance.
Many children labeled with ADD, ADHD, OCD, Autism, or Sensory Processing differences are not broken.
They are perceptive.
They are multi-dimensional.
They are energetic beings in a system that only rewards one narrow form of intelligence.
And often, they’re aware of everything.
The social dynamics no one is naming.
The unspoken emotions in the room.
The pressure their teachers are under.
The overwhelm their parents are trying to hide.
They’re not inattentive.
They’re tuning in to so much more than we realize.
Let’s stop trying to “normalize” difference
Trying to make neurodivergent or sensitive children behave like everyone else
isn’t inclusion. It’s erasure.
We end up teaching kids to distrust their own way of sensing the world.
We say things like:
“Stop daydreaming.”
“You need to try harder.”
“Why can’t you just sit still?”
“Be like the other kids.”
Even if we mean well, the impact is real.
And internalized.
What if, instead, we asked:
🌿 What is your body asking for right now?
🌿 What are you aware of that no one else is noticing?
🌿 What kind of space actually works for you to thrive?
What if we created learning environments that made room for different kinds of brilliance?
Sensitive ≠ fragile. Neurodivergent ≠ broken.
The children who are the most reactive often don’t need more discipline,
they need more regulation, more understanding,
more space to be exactly as they are.
Many of them are energy readers.
Intuitives. Movers. Builders. Geniuses. Artists.
Deep thinkers who just don’t show it in the way we’re taught to expect.
When we support these kids with tools that honor how they naturally function,
something opens.
They begin to soften.
They come alive.
They show us just how much they were holding back while trying to fit.
This is the work I offer: for children, families, and educators
In our sessions and workshops for kids and families, we create space for:
Expression that doesn’t rely on performance
Movement and art that calm the nervous system
Body-based tools (including Access Bars®) to release overwhelm
New ways of communicating that don’t shame or silence
Support for caregivers who are doing their very best, often without a map
I don’t see kids as problems.
I see them as potent, perceptive beings who often just need someone to meet them where they are.
If you’ve been told your child is too much, too sensitive, too difficult,
I want you to know:
They might just be too brilliant for the box they were put in.
Let’s raise them with the awareness that their difference isn’t a disorder.
It’s a doorway to something greater.
With softness, wonder,
and a deep honoring of every kind of brilliance,
Nihan
Facilitator of creative freedom, sensory regulation & new possibilities for kids and families
nihansevinc.com
Raising Children Who Don’t Have to Suffer to Know Their Worth
A new paradigm of parenting and care that honors ease, not struggle, as the path to growth.
There’s a story many of us inherited, quietly, unconsciously, generation after generation. The story says:
To become a good person, you must struggle.
To be valuable, you must overcome.
To be worthy, you must suffer first.
And we did.
We pushed through.
We performed.
We endured.
We learned to disconnect from ourselves just enough to fit in.
To succeed.
To belong.
And yet… so many of us have grown up
still aching,
still recovering,
still trying to remember who we were before we thought we had to earn our right to exist.
But what if we didn’t pass that story on?
What if the next generation didn’t have to lose themselves in order to be “loved?”
What if they didn’t have to shut down their truth, or shrink their magic, or override their bodies, just to be seen as “good”?
What if we raised children who didn’t have to suffer… to know they matter?
What ease can teach that struggle never could
This isn’t about coddling.
This isn’t about avoiding challenge.
It’s about where our children begin.
What if we raised kids on a foundation of safety, so that when life’s inevitable challenges come, they meet them from capacity, not survival?
What if we taught them to trust their own rhythms,
so they don’t collapse into comparison, people-pleasing, or perfectionism?
What if we created learning and living environments that were:
🌿 regulating, not overstimulating
🌿 expressive, not performative
🌿 restorative, not exhausting
🌿 rooted in relationship, not rigid control
Because when a child’s nervous system feels safe,
they don’t stop growing, they begin to thrive.
Let’s raise children who know they are already enough
Let’s raise the children who…
Know their voice matters without needing to shout
Can say no without being punished
Can say yes without being pushed
Know rest is not laziness
Know expression is not a test
Know their worth doesn’t depend on how much they produce or please
Let’s raise children who can create, not to be praised, but to be free.
Let’s raise children who know joy isn’t a reward, it’s their birthright.
This is the work I offer: for kids, families, and the systems that hold them
In our workshops and sessions for kids, families, and educators, we create space for:
✨ Creative exploration that rewires perfectionism
✨ Expressive movement and art that reconnects kids to their bodies
✨ Nervous system-informed tools to support regulation, for both kids and adults
✨ Conversations that don’t collapse into blame, but open to possibility
✨ And most of all, connection. Real, soft, honoring connection.
Because when we stop passing on the story that says you must suffer to be good, we create a world where children can rise not from survival, but from self-trust, curiosity, and joy.
If this speaks to you, you’re not alone. Whether you’re a parent, caregiver, educator, or simply someone who knows there must be a different way, welcome.
You’re already part of the new story.
With reverence for every child (and inner child)
who’s learning they never had to earn their worth,
Nihan
Facilitator of regulated creativity, expression & possibility for kids, families, and the systems that shape them
nihansevinc.com
The Quiet Cost of Resentment in the Workplace
What if resentment isn’t a failure, but a signal for change?
There was a time in my career when I couldn’t name it.
The fatigue? I could manage.
The pressure? I had tools for that.
Even the silence, I learned how to hold that, too.
But the one thing that felt impossible to carry?
Resentment.
And it wasn’t loud.
It grew slowly, underneath.
Quietly collecting in my system each time I was interrupted, dismissed, overlooked.
Each time I offered a possibility that no one had space to hear.
Each time I watched my teammates burn themselves out while smiling through the meetings.
We were brilliant.
We believed in the work.
And we were drowning in our own corners.
It wasn’t the workload that broke me. It was the bitterness.
The endless cycles of urgency.
The pressure that never let up.
Managers who themselves were collapsing under invisible weight.
And still—none of us could speak to it.
As if it were blasphemy to admit the systems were failing us.
As if we had to keep smiling or risk being replaced.
As if we forgot that humans create structures,
and therefore, we can change them too.
Resentment was my alarm bell.
Not a weakness.
Not a moral flaw.
But a deep, painful signal that something wasn’t working.
And not just for me.
For all of us.
What if resentment isn’t something to avoid, but to listen to?
I work with teams now. Teams who have reached the point of no return. Where the unspoken resentment is so close to the surface, it leaks out as:
backhanded comments
chronic illness
disengagement
passive conflict
high turnover
low trust
fatigue that no amount of PTO can fix
And here’s what I’ve learned:
Resentment isn’t the end.
It’s the signal that something new is ready to begin.
When we stop pointing fingers,
and start listening to the body of the team itself,
a new possibility opens.
Resentment becomes gold.
Not to shame or suppress.
But to reveal what’s been missing:
honest communication
mutual respect
space for creative input
shared ownership of the mission
human-centered leadership
The bravest thing I did was step back
I had to pause.
Not because I didn’t care,
but because I cared too much to keep playing a role in systems that couldn’t hear me.
Also, my body gave up.
I took space.
I healed.
I gathered tools that actually work.
And when I returned to the world of work,
I did so with a new commitment:
To bring reconciliation where there was rupture
Spaciousness where there was tension
Sustainability where there was overdrive
Peace where there was bitterness
And truth, spoken gently, without blame
This is the work I do now
I work with organizations, leaders, and teams who are ready for something different.
Not just surface-level fixes.
But real, nervous-system-informed, possibility-driven transformation.
I help teams move:
From silent resentment to honest dialogue
From burnout to breath
From fragmented to connected
From resignation to regeneration
Because the truth is:
when your star employees start getting resentful,
don’t dismiss it.
Don’t shame it.
Don’t gaslight it.
Listen.
It’s a sign something wants to change.
And it might be the very thing that saves your culture, your mission, and your people.
If your team is at a breaking point,
Or if you’ve sensed the quiet rumblings of resentment long before they erupted…
Let’s talk.
There is another way.
And it begins with a willingness to meet what’s real.
To bring gentleness to the mess.
To honor the possibility beneath the pain.
This is not about blame.
It’s about becoming.
With grounded truth,
space for repair,
and the kind of leadership that makes people want to stay,
Nihan
🌿
Facilitator of regeneration, reconciliation, and new possibilities for teams
nihansevinc.com
Creativity Requires Space, Not Pressure
A new way to nourish innovation in your team
We’ve been taught that pressure produces results.
Deadlines drive performance.
Stress sharpens focus.
But here’s what we often forget:
Creativity doesn’t bloom under pressure.
It blooms in space.
In stillness.
In the moments when the nervous system feels safe enough to explore the unknown.
The old model says:
Push harder. Think faster. Perform better.
But the body knows what the mind often forgets,
That pressure may force results momentarily,
but it rarely nurtures true innovation or sustainable productivity.
What pressure really does to creativity
When we’re under pressure, emotional, social, or time-bound,
the nervous system contracts.
Our awareness narrows.
We go into survival mode (fight/flight/freeze).
And survival mode is not a creative state.
It’s a reactive one.
In this state, we default to what we have done before.
We repeat. We rush. We stay safe.
We deliver, yes, but we don’t breathe. We don’t play.
And without play, there is no true creation.
So if your team is stuck in repetition,
if innovation feels forced or thin,
if burnout is lurking beneath the surface, along with resentment…
It might not be a “motivation” problem.
It might be a space problem.
Access Bars: A practical tool for creative spaciousness
One of the most effective tools I’ve encountered, and now offer in workplaces is called Access Bars®.
It’s a gentle, hands-on technique
that literally creates space in your brain and nervous system.
Clients describe it as decluttering their mind
and being able to breathe again.
Research shows that just one 40-minute session can have the same effects on the brain and body as 6 hours of deep sleep.
Used in workplaces around the world—from corporations and hospitals to schools—Access Bars is emerging as a powerful tool for:
Burnout prevention
Nervous system regulation
Clarity, productivity, creativity, and calm under pressure
This isn’t about checking out.
It’s about creating the internal spaciousness
from which new ideas, new solutions, and real collaboration can emerge.
Would you like to introduce this to your team?
Welcome to the future—
where regeneration is the foundation of sustainable innovation.
What creativity actually needs
True creativity needs:
🌿 Spaciousness, not rigidity
🌿 Permission to follow curiosity, not just meet expectations
🌿 A sense of safety, so the unknown doesn’t feel like a threat
🌿 Cycles of rest and integration, not just output
Creativity isn’t linear.
It comes in waves.
And it thrives in systems that allow for that rhythm to exist.
When we give ourselves, and our teams, space to breathe,
we begin to access what was buried beneath pressure all along:
genius, insight, and possibility.
Let’s bring spacious productivity back into work
In my work with organizations, I help teams restore the nervous system space that creativity requires. Whether through Access Bars sessions, somatic exploration, or nervous system-informed coaching, we invite something radical:
A culture that values easeful creation over pressure.
Not laziness—aliveness.
If your workplace is craving more vitality, more innovation, more clarity,
start here.
Not with more pressure.
But with more permission.
With breath, softness,
and reverence for the brilliance that lives underneath the noise,
Nihan
🌿
Facilitator of regulated creativity & nervous system-literate leadership
nihansevinc.com
Nervous System-Informed Leadership
Why your team doesn’t need a hero,
they need a calmer leader with a regulated nervous system.
We don’t need more pressure in our workspaces.
We need more presence.
So often, leadership is mistaken for performance,
the loudest voice, the fastest solution, the ability to push through.
But the nervous system doesn’t respond to performance.
It responds to safety.
To congruence.
To someone whose words, energy, and body are in alignment.
In times of uncertainty, your team doesn’t need you to have all the answers.
They need to feel your steadiness.
Your clarity.
Your ability to stay grounded when things wobble.
This is what I call nervous system-informed leadership.
The difference between authority and regulation
Authority says: “Trust me—I’m in charge.”
Regulation says: “You can settle—I'm not going to spin out.”
We’ve all been in rooms where someone had authority, but no presence.
The body knows when leadership is pretend.
And the body also knows when it’s safe to exhale.
True leadership isn’t about power-over.
It’s about being the calm in the storm
without pretending there isn’t a storm at all.
Safety fosters innovation
A nervous system in survival mode is not wired for creativity.
It’s scanning for threat, not opportunity.
When a team feels psychologically and physiologically safe,
the space opens for:
new ideas
healthy disagreement
feedback without shutdown
momentum that doesn’t lead to collapse
We don’t need more inspiration that burns hot and fizzles out.
We need sustainable systems where people feel free to be bold because their bodies are included.
You don’t have to carry it all alone
Many leaders are holding too much.
Trying to be everything.
To anticipate everyone’s needs.
To hold the pressure, the outcomes, the invisible emotional labor, alone.
Leadership has become synonymous with self-sacrifice in many structures.
But here’s what I want you to know:
You don’t have to be perfect.
You don’t have to do it all by yourself.
You’re allowed to be supported.
Let your team have your back.
Engage their contribution.
Let them rise, not just because you push, but because you trust.
A regulated leader doesn’t mean an invulnerable one.
It means someone who knows when to pause, when to delegate, and when to receive.
Let your leadership be imperfect.
Let it invite others’ greatness.
Let it breathe.
The most powerful leaders are not the loudest, but the clearest
Regulated leadership isn’t passive.
It’s not about stepping back completely, it’s about stepping in with presence.
With the ability to sense when a team needs activation, and when they need spaciousness.
It’s about attunement, not control.
Awareness, not rigidity.
Accountability, not shame.
Clarity doesn’t mean you always know the answer.
It means you can hold the unknown without collapsing.
And that you ask questions… ones that invite more possibilities.
That kind of leadership creates ripple effects,
on team culture, on wellbeing, and on outcomes.
What becomes possible when leadership softens?
In my work with teams and organizations,
I guide leaders into more nervous system-literate ways of leading:
Using simple embodied practices and body awareness to regulate under pressure
Building cultures of clarity and care, without micromanaging
Repairing ruptures with honesty and grace
Leading from curiosity, not reactivity, with simple pragmatic questions
When leadership is informed by the nervous system,
we stop forcing change through pressure,
and start cultivating it through presence.
This is what the future of work can be.
And if you’re sensing that your leadership, or your organization, is ready to evolve,
I’d love to begin that conversation with you.
We don’t need perfect leaders.
We need present ones.
With grounded breath and gentle power,
Nihan
🌿
Facilitator of regulated leadership & new possibilities at work
nihansevinc.com
What If Work Didn’t Have to Hurt?
A new possibility for how we create, lead, and live
There’s a quiet exhaustion that many of us carry.
Not the kind that sleep can fix,
but the kind that comes from holding everything together for too long,
in systems that weren’t designed with our bodies in mind.
And yet… we show up.
Brilliant. Caring. Capable.
We lead. We perform. We exceed.
We do what it takes, often at the cost of our own wellbeing.
But here’s the question that’s been rising:
What if it didn’t have to be this way?
Not as a rebellion.
Not as an accusation.
But as a gentle invitation into a different kind of workplace,
one that’s sustainable for the nervous system,
supportive of real creativity,
and built on trust, not tension.
Because here’s what I’ve seen, again and again:
Most burnout isn’t a failure of individuals,
It’s the result of cultures that forget we are human.Most conflict isn’t about personalities,
It’s unacknowledged stress, stuck communication, and a lack of safe space to pause and reset.And most people don’t need fixing.
They need permission to soften. To breathe. To be received.
We’re not here to point fingers.
We’re here to ask new questions.
To listen in new ways.
To co-create a work culture that honors the actual resource we need most:
our presence.
Imagine a team that knows how to pause, regulate, and reconnect.
A culture where rest is not weakness,
and where clarity and creativity come because the body feels safe, not in spite of it.
This is the possibility I bring into my work with teams and organizations.
Through nervous system-informed sessions, creative exploration, and space for real conversation,
I help groups move out of burnout survival
and into something far more generative:
🌿 grounded collaboration
🌿 ease without collapse
🌿 clarity without control
🌿 momentum without override
If you're sensing that something in your workplace is ready to evolve,
not because it’s broken, but because it’s outgrowing the old shape,
I’d love to begin the conversation.
Because work doesn’t have to hurt.
And your team doesn’t have to carry it all alone.
Let’s imagine something new, together.
When you are ready, I’ll be here.
With care, clarity,
and a nervous system that breathes,
Nihan
🌿
Facilitator of softness, regulation, and possibility
nihansevinc.com
Allowing Your Beauty to Shine Through
Not just the physical beauty, although that can be a window too,
but the beauty of your being.
There is a kind of beauty
that doesn’t ask for attention.
It doesn’t need to be polished, proven, or praised.
It simply is…
like the hush between waves,
or the way sunlight slips through leaves.
This kind of beauty lives deep inside you.
Maybe no one ever told you that.
Maybe they only saw what they thought was wrong.
I know that story.
I grew up with people who couldn’t see the gift of me.
Only their projections, anger, shame, blame, pressed into my body.
So I made a quiet choice, very early on:
This cycle of abuse ends with me.
And I’ve kept choosing that.
Again and again.
Through decades of healing.
Through trembling moments of saying no to what once felt familiar.
Through systems and sessions and soft hands on my nervous system.
I’ve become a coach, a facilitator, a witness.
But most of all, I’ve become someone who listens.
And the one who taught me best?
Nature.
The way she receives me without question.
The way she mirrors the beauty I forgot I carried.
Now, I’m in a space where I no longer give my power to people or places that dim me.
(At least not for long. The choosing gets clearer each time.)
And now, another layer is ready to be released:
the ways I’ve dimmed and abused myself.
The ways I tried to make my light quieter,
so I wouldn’t ruffle feathers.
The ways I tried to be good, to get it right, to be perfect,
just to feel like I deserved to exist.
But something is shifting.
Something gentle.
Something wild.
I am beginning to perceive myself.
Not as something to fix or improve (which is what most of my life has been about),
but as something… beautiful.
✨ I am soft.
✨ I am potent.
✨ I am lightness, even after all the darkness I’ve walked through.
And I didn’t pass that darkness on.
I don’t belong to any religion,
but it was St. Francis’ prayer that kept me going:
Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.
I wanted to be for others what the trees were for me.
And now, something is softening open in my chest—
a realization that brings me to tears:
I get to be received, too.
Not used.
Not taken from.
Not diminished.
Received.
Seen.
Held.
It’s always been so easy for me to see others’ beauty.
Now, I’m letting those who see mine, gently, with reverence, come closer.
I know, to move forward with the creation of my life, I need to receive more.
To allow myself to be truly seen.
In the past, the people who did perceive the beauty of my being
were often the ones I dismissed.
I doubted their sincerity.
Feared their attention.
Assumed they had a secret agenda.
Or I rejected them entirely,
afraid they might expose the truth of who I really am.
“Don’t give away my identity. I need to hide.”
And so, I surrounded myself with what was familiar:
judgment, projection, frenemies dressed as friends.
Funny how we always create as our lives what is familiar.
But something shifted a few months ago.
I got curious:
Where are the beautiful beings who can truly see me?
Who would delight in contributing to me, without control or demand?
And slowly, I began to notice the ones who were already there.
And the new ones began to appear.
It’s been humbling.
Not to expect from them,
but to lower my barriers,
and let myself receive the gift of their presence.
To let them perceive the beauty of my being…
and allow this to dissolve my walls.
So if you’ve read this far,
may I offer you a whisper of possibility?
- What if you were never wrong?
- What if your beauty lives beyond the mirror, meant to be felt, known, breathed?
My name, Nihan, means
“The mysterious one.
That which is hidden, unseen by the eye,
perceived only in subtlety.”
That has been my path.
To find, receive, and become
What I truly be.
That which cannot be defined.
And now, I’m standing at the beginning of a new journey.
It’s like learning to walk again.
If it feels hard to see your own beauty right now,
here’s the practice I return to again and again:
Go sit with a tree.
Or an animal.
Or the ocean.
And ask:
“Will you show me how beautiful I am today?”
They will.
They always do.
No need to prove.
No need to strive.
No need to shrink.
You are already the beauty you’re searching for.
Just as you are.
Right now.
Always.
And if something in these words touched you,
if a part of you whispered, yes, I want to feel that… I want to be seen like that,
I want you to know: you're not alone.
This is the space I invite you to in my sessions.
A space where your nervous system can soften.
Where your body can exhale. And your being can arrive.
Where nothing about you is too much, or too messy, or too late.
Whether through conversation, energy work, movement, or silence,
we listen.
We untangle.
We let your own beauty rise to the surface and be received.
✨ I offer private sessions both online and in person in Vancouver.
✨ You’re welcome just as you are.
✨ You don’t have to be “ready.” Just willing to begin.
If it’s time to remember who you are,
to reclaim the pieces of you that were never wrong,
I’d be honored to walk beside you.
You can learn more or book a session at nihansevinc.com
And if you’re not quite sure what you need,
simply reach out. Let’s have a gentle conversation.
You’re not too much.
You’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You’re becoming.
Welcome to more of you, my beautiful friend.
With softness, with wonder,
and with all the beauty you already are,
Nihan
Enchanted Way of Being
A love note to the magic you already are
There’s a kind of life that doesn’t rush.
It winks at you from flower petals,
flirts with you in the way the wind kisses your skin,
and sings through the laughter of someone who receives you.
It doesn’t always arrive with fireworks.
Often, it’s subtle.
A shimmer in the ordinary.
The way your tea feels like a warm hug.
The way your toes look—sparkly, sweet and unexpected.
The moment you allow yourself to be seen—no performance, no proving. Just… you.
Welcome to enchantment.
And you are made for it.
You don’t have to chase it.
You don’t have to deserve it.
You simply allow it.
You are the one who enchants.
You walk into a room and time slows down.
Not because you demand attention—
but because your presence reminds the world of beauty.
You’ve always had the gift.
You’ve always known.
And now,
Ready to live it? Be it?
Let life romance you.
Let your days feel like enchanted play.
Be the one who doesn’t shrink to fit the grey,
but paints it wild with color.
If the world ever feels heavy again…
don’t harden.
Don’t push.
Come into your enchantment.
Breathe it in.
Whisper it out.
And let it ripple through everything you touch.
The enchanted being is not a fantasy.
It’s energy. It’s space.
And you, beloved, are the spell.
— Nihan Sevinc
When Your Body Needs to Cry
Not because you're broken—but because you're finally being met.
Sometimes, when something beautiful arrives,
my body needs to cry.
Not because I’m sad.
Not because I’m upset.
But because I am finally receiving.
Something in me is finally being acknowledged.
A fleeting moment of magic…
A quiet kindness…
A burst of unexpected joy…
A gentle hand on my back, saying, “You don’t have to do it all alone.”
And suddenly, the tears come.
Not from despair—
but from relief.
From gratitude.
From the melting that happens
when a body that has been holding so much for so long
gets to let go.
If you grew up in harsh conditions,
you learn to toughen up.
You do a great job at it.
You become the go-getter.
Brilliant.
Capable.
But at some point,
you’ve got to give yourself space to breathe.
To take off your armor.
To lay it gently beside you and whisper, “Thank you. But I don’t need you right now.”
And when that happens?
There may be a lot of crying.
Not out of desperation—
but like ice melting in springtime.
Like a wind that clears the heavy weather.
Like rain washing the dust from forgotten windows.
Your body might weep—not to fall apart—
but to come home.
Do you have those spaces in your life?
Is now the time to create them?
To gift them to yourself?
For your nervous system to relax,
to recalibrate,
to be reminded that the struggle is over.
Because if we don’t let our bodies know that we are home now—
if we don’t show our nervous systems that the war is done—
we will unconsciously keep creating more battles.
Start by acknowledging what you’ve already survived.
What you’ve already changed.
What you’ve already become.
Start noticing the blessings.
And receive them.
In little moments.
Don’t rush to the next task.
Take a 10-second pause to let it seep in.
Have your tea in quiet presence, with swaying leaves in the morning.
Take that exhale. Sigh out loud.
Let your hair be messy. Let your mascara run. Let your laughter be loud and unladylike.
Dance to that silly song from your teenage years—the one that makes you grin and wiggle like no one's watching.
Let your colleague gift you a cup of coffee, without needing to reciprocate.
Eat that dessert. Smell that flower. Bake the bread. Eat the soup.
Let a cat purr on your lap.
Talk to a butterfly.
Jump on your neighbours’ trampoline with the kids.
Take that swim, that cold plunge—even if it messes up your hair before your next Zoom meeting
Receive a stranger’s compliment with a smile and a simple thank you.
Listen to that song that makes your body cry.
Ask for contribution—from a friend, from the wind, from the universe.
Giggle for no reason. Snort in the middle of your coffee date.
Is this the kind of living your body longs for?
Not perfection.
But presence?
Kindness?
The struggle is over when we choose it to be over.
The rest?
Just remnants,
ready to be released—
from your body, your mind, and your nervous system.
This is what I love about Access Bars and Access Body Processes.
They don’t fix you.
They return you home.
Home to your body.
Home to your softness.
Home to your truth.
Are you ready?
Welcome Note
Welcome to the Blog
A space for reflections, tools, and perspectives that nourish change.
Whether you're a creative, parent, educator, a professional, a team leader, or simply someone who knows in your bones that a different way of living, creating, and relating is possible—
this space is for you.
I know “something different” exists because I am living proof for it. It is what I continue to explore in every moment.
I’ve walked through burnout, trauma, disconnection, reinvention, and deep healing—
and I've spent years gathering tools that honour difference, restore regulation, and make space for our fullest creative selves.
You’re not here to follow a formula.
You’re here because you know something different is possible.
A way that honours bodies, not just the mind.
Creativity, not compliance.
Action, not reaction.
Curiosity, not control.
Here, you'll find reflections and resources across three key pathways:
✨ Coming Home to You — for the brilliant, creative souls who are ready to reclaim their energy, voice, and possibility.
🌿 Kids & Families — for those raising, teaching, and loving sensitive and differently-wired children.
🌀 Teams & Organizations — for those building workplaces and communities where difference is not a liability, but a strength.
Whatever you choose, I hope this space reminds you:
You’re not wrong.
You’re not alone.
And something new is possible.
Are you ready?
Let’s go!
Walking with you in the wild, wondrous unfolding,
Nihan