Why I Work with Neurodivergent Children: A Personal Journey
When I speak with parents of neurodivergent kids, I often hear the same underlying concern: “Am I doing enough? Is something wrong with my child?”
I understand that worry. Our society is built around a narrow idea of how children “should” behave, learn, and communicate. Anything outside the box is often seen as a problem to fix. But what if it isn’t? What if these differences are actually capacities waiting to be explored?
My Approach with Children
I work with children, diagnosed and undiagnosed, who often don’t fit the mold. Some are non-verbal, sensitive to light or sound, very high energy or simply uninterested in playing or learning in conventional ways. Instead of trying to change them, I meet them where they are.
My approach combines:
Calm, peaceful presence so children feel safe and seen.
Nervous system regulation to create more ease for both child and parent.
Inquiry-based learning, play, and expressive arts to invite curiosity.
Nature and movement as doorways into self-expression.
I also draw on the tools of Pragmatic Psychology (inspired by psychiatrist Susanna Mittermeier and child specialist Anne Maxwell) and a gentle technique called Access Bars®, which helps quiet the mind and relax the body. With children who are sensitive to touch, this can even be done without direct contact.
Why This Matters to Me
This isn’t just professional, it’s personal. I am neurodivergent myself, though never officially diagnosed, I clearly resonate with ADHD and light autism. For years, I thought my “weird” way of perceiving and communicating was wrong. Now I recognize it as a gift that allows me to connect with children in ways words often can’t.
On top of that, my younger brother was on the spectrum, though not formally diagnosed. From the time he was a baby, I was the only one in my family who could “speak his language” and ease his meltdowns. I became his advocate, helping teachers see him not as a problem but as a contributor. Today, he is a thriving engineer with multiple degrees and a fulfilling life. Supporting him shaped the patience and presence I bring to every child I work with.
What I See in Children
When I work with kids, I don’t focus on what’s missing, I look for what’s present and possible. A child who doesn’t speak may still communicate clearly through energy, gesture, and presence. A child labeled “behind” may actually perceive the world in ways most adults can’t begin to imagine.
The so-called “difficult” behaviors often melt away when a child is met without judgment. And in their place, something else emerges: creativity, connection, and joy.
An Invitation
If you’re a parent, caregiver, or educator of a sensitive or neurodivergent child, I invite you to take a breath. Let go of the judgments, of yourself and of them. Ask instead: What else is possible here that I haven’t even imagined before?
You may be surprised at how clearly a child shows you what they need, if you’re present enough to receive it.
Start acknowledging what you perceive and know as a parent. Because, even if nobody else gets it, you know.
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