How to Stop Losing Yourself in Love

A Poetic Reclaiming for the Ones Who Care Too Much

You didn’t lose yourself
because you were weak.
You lost yourself
because you were magnificent.

You saw what was possible —
and tried to be the bridge.
You loved with the whole sky.
You believed in his becoming
more than he did.

You twisted your truth
into something more palatable.
You dimmed your knowing
so you wouldn’t scare him.

You wanted love,
but you were taught to barter for it.

And so you shapeshifted.
Softened your voice.
Made room.
Made excuses.
Made dinner.
Made magic.

And forgot to make space for you.

It’s not that your desire was wrong.
It’s that you were misinformed
about what love requires.
You were told to earn it.

But real love —
true partnership —
doesn’t ask you to become less.

It doesn’t say:

“I’ll stay, if you stay small.”

It says:

“Rise. I’ll meet you there.”

You were never “too much.”
You were never meant to fit
inside a love that feared your fire.

You are the Queen
who forgot she was royalty
because she was raised in a world
that feared the powerful ones
and punished those who spoke in truth

But hear this now —
the kind of love you crave
requires your wholeness.

It needs your full presence,
your play,
your pleasure,
your knowing,
your “no” as eagerly as your “yes.”

It needs your full self-trust
more than your sacrifice.

So if you're tired
of losing yourself in the name of love —
don’t harden.
Don’t close.

Just come home.

Back to your body.
Back to your breath.
Back to your dance
as the first place you listen.

Because you’re not here to be chosen.
You’re here to choose.

You’re not here to be rescued.
You’re here to receive.

You’re not here to fix or prove.
You’re here to create.

And if your heart still longs for a partner?
Beautiful.

There are Kings who are not afraid
of a Queen in her full expression.

Men whose strength is not dominance
but devotion.

But they do not arrive
when you abandon yourself.

They arrive
when you become
the lover you’ve been waiting for.

👑 This is the work we do in session.

Not just “healing from heartbreak” —
but reclaiming the parts of you
that were never broken.
The Lady who creates her own field.
The Lady who is no longer afraid
to shine while loving.
The Lady who knows how to stay loyal
to herself —
and keep her heart open.

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Your softness is not a liability.
Your care is not your cage.
Your love was never the problem.

You are not here to shrink.
You are here to rise
in magic,
as magic,
without leaving yourself behind.

With shining possibility,
Nihan Sevinc