To the Kind and Courageous Men—Thank You
To the Kind and Courageous Men—Thank You
These days, men are blamed for everything.
But the ones taking the blame?
They’re not the perpetrators.
They’re the kind ones.
The ones who care.
The ones who listen, reflect, take responsibility—
even for pain they didn’t create.
I am grateful you are here.
The men who have carried more than their share in the name of change.
The men who are choosing change, not because they were wrong, but because they care.
Who don’t check out when things get tough.
Who don’t use our softness against us.
Who delight in our silly whimsical presence. And meet our fierce with respect.
Let’s acknowledge:
There are those who are here to create havoc and destruction on the planet.
And they do not belong to a gender.
There are women who poison the well of possibilities.
Women who abuse.
Women who divide.
And there are men who heal.
Men who contribute.
Men who hold presence and potency, not power over.
Men who protect without controlling.
Who witness without dominating.
Who love without silencing.
When we lump men together as “the problem,”
we’re not dismantling patriarchy—
we’re destroying the very men who are here to build something new.
Men who are craving a different way.
They cannot change what they did not create by taking on the blame.
They should not have to “fix” what was never theirs to carry by diminishing themselves.
To the modern, independent women, can you relate?
As a girl, I was raised with two options:
Be fiercely independent. Don’t need a man. Don’t ever receive from one.
Or, submit completely—to a man who will drain your life force.
I managed to do both.
I cut myself off from receiving.
And I gave myself to a man who would take everything.
Leaving my ex, ending an abusive marriage…
people assumed I’d walk away hating men.
But that was never the point.
If anything, along the way, it made me more grateful for the men who are kind.
Who are generous. Who are truly courageous and strong.
Who are here to love, create, protect, and uplift.
It made the difference crystal clear.
It took a while, but it cracked me open to receive.
Along the way, I’ve been blessed with brothers from other mothers—
men who treat me with such reverence and respect,
who receive me as the magic I am…
You have changed my world by being you.
To the kind men out there,
You are not wrong.
You are not broken.
You aren’t a villain.
You are not to blame for what others have chosen.
Are you done carrying what’s not yours?
Taking on the shame that was never meant for you?
Of course, just like us, kind&fierce women,
you too have your journey of transformation,
of reckoning,
of becoming more you.
So I’d like to offer a different possibility:
What if you weren’t a problem to fix?
You, my friend, are a possibility to honour.
And you are not alone in this.
There are women who see you.
Who are grateful for you.
Who are walking this path with you.
Maybe there aren’t a lot of us on the planet yet—
because we, too, have been cut off from what is true and beautiful.
But there will be more.
The wind is changing directions.
And that’s what I’m committed to creating:
A world where we can work together—
men and women.
A world where we’re invited to receive from one another. Joyfully.
This is what the planet is asking for.
To go beyond the divide between genders,
we must meet each other.
Welcome each other, without blame.
Honour each other, without expectation.
And receive the gifts we each bring.
Dear kind and courageous men,
Your presence is a gift.
Your strength lies in not buying the lies.
In not diminishing yourself to make others comfortable.
In not feeding your energy to those who would use you,
blame you,
or twist you into a version of yourself that is not potent.
We need you.
Your clarity.
Your courage.
Your care.
We see you.
And we’re rising with you.
For the world we are creating together,
where presence is power and kindness leads,
Nihan Sevinc
